Deen and Behaviour.

Deen is conduct or behavior

Remember over 90% of our Quran which we read every day covers rules of conduct not rules of worship.

From the time the Prophet Mohammad PBUH was sent until the 13 year of hijra almost all the ayat that were being revealed were talking about rules of conduct until the foundation was so strong then the ayat of Ahkaam started to be revealed.
For example the ayat for fasting came after 15 years from the be3tha of our beloved Prophet PBUH and the ayat of Hijab and cover came after about 19 years.

Sadly so many Muslims today left the essence of this deen, left the 90% and focused on the 10% thinking it’s enough!!. Even in our Islamic schools and madrasa, the focus is on the ahkaam and what is halal and haram and we totally left out the code of conduct and behavior which our beloved Prophet PBUH used to teach in every single action or move he takes.

Then we wonder why the Muslim world is so behind? Why we became so weak? Why we are not able to have the victory the Prophet PBUH and his companion used to have?

The answer is very simple; We neglected our deen, so we got lost!! We focused on one part and left the other part. Our deen is not 3ebadah only, our deen is 3ebada and 3amal.

Today I want us to go back a little bit and brush the dust off those major important lessons, our Prophet PBUH taught us. I want us to go back to our code of conduct…..our behavior which is part of this deen but sadly so many of us separated it and made the deen is only prayer and fast and once we are off the prayer mat, we become a different human being.

…Abu Darda’ reported that the Prophet of Allah, upon him be peace, said, “Nothing is weightier on the Scale of Deeds than one’s good manners.”

The Prophet (saaws) said: “The most beloved of Allah’s servants to Allah are those with the best manners.”

Abu Huraira, r.a., said, “I heard Abu al Qasim (the Prophet saaws), say, ‘The best among you in Islam are those with the best manners, so long as they develop a sense of understanding.’ ”

… Abu Huraira, r.a., said that the Prophet of Allah, saaws, said, “If one has good manners, one may attain the same level of merit as those who spend their nights in prayer.”

There are people who force you to open for them the doors of your heart so they can enter whether you like it or not…. You like so many things about them which attract you and make you love them.

Let’s have a look at what attracts the heart and could grant you so much ajr and thawab:
1. Ekhlas: (Sincerity) to Allah SWT, when someone fears Allah SWT and wants to be close to him, Allah creates a light in his heart and his face and makes people love him/her.

2. Husnul Khuluq (Good manners): is the reason to win peoples’ hearts because Akhalaaq are the true beauty. The Prophet PBUH said: The most beloved to Allah those with the better manners).

3. Forgiveness: The smart one is the one who overlooks the mistakes of others, forgives and forgets them or make him/herself forget them. A mistake should not make you cut off your brother or sister in Islam, instead you should remind yourself of their good qualities and live the words of Allah SWT when he said in the Quran:

{ وَالْكَاظِمِينَ الْغَيْظَ وَالْعَافِينَ عَنِ النَّاسِ وَاللّهُ يُحِبُّ الْمُحْسِنِينَ }

(and who restrain anger and who pardon the people – and Allah loves the doers of good) Aal Imran 134

4. Humbleness: leaves a very strong and influencing impression in the hearts of others. The Prophet PBUH said: “Whoever has pride in his heart equal to the weight of a mustard seed shall not enter Paradise.”

5. A gift: gifting is a generosity of the soul and it soothes the heart, the Prophet PBUH used to accept gifts and used to gift and he said PBUH: ( تهادوا فإن الهدية تذهب وحر الصدر ) “Give gifts to one another, and you will love one another.”.

6. Helping your Muslim brother or sister: will always grant you their love and trust and will indeed grant you a lot of ajr and thawab as it is considered sadaqa.

7. Listening: is a very wide door which opens the hearts and the souls especially when someone has problems or issues which are stressing them. To listen and to try to ease those feelings will sure grant you not just the love of your fellow Muslim but the ajr and thawab from Allah SWT.

8. High manners when speaking to other: is very important, whether they are older than you or even younger. You must always consider people’s feelings and rights. Even if you know more than them, that does not give you the right to disrespect them or embarrass them. If you have more knowledge then that should humble you more in front of others. Learn from our beloved Prophet PBUH and let him be your role model. Even Allah SWT said in the Quran: (So by mercy from Allah , [O Muhammad], you were lenient with them. And if you had been rude [in speech] and harsh in heart, they would have disbanded from about you.) 159 Aal Imraan.

9. Staying away from high temper: Instead keep yourself calm and if you can’t exercise it until you can even if someone presses your buttons, remember our beloved Prophet’s words (when someone asked him: please advise me, he answered: Don’t be angry…and he repeated many times…Don’t be angry) Sahih Al Bukhari.

10. Don’t make fun of anyone or be sarcastic in your answers, weigh your words so many times before you say them or post them, remember you are accountable for every word you utter or write.

11. Fulfilling a promise: if you ever promise anyone anything make sure to deliver and always remember that hypocrites are the ones who promise and never deliver.

12. Ehsaan: in everything, in dealing with people, Muslims and non Muslims even in dealing with other of Allah’s creatures. Ehsaan doesn’t have to be with money only; Ehsan has so many unlimited ways.

13. Cleanliness: in your body, your dress, your smell and your place attracts people to you instead of pushing them away from you.

Finally I urge myself and you my sisters and brothers, to go back to the Qura’an and read it with understanding, go back to the Seerah of our beloved Prophet and study his behavior and conduct and take a moment to always think before you act.

Love you all for the sake of Allah


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